Tuesday, 25 March 2014

Secrets you never tell

He looked at me and smiled, after along stare he said, "secrets you never tell,'' and paused again, I am who I am because they made me who I am, i guess this is the man every woman wants, when I see them cry, I always remember the tears she made me roll, the pains i went through, the ulcers i suffered from, the headaches, brother you know how a man in love feels when the girl he loves keeps on playing games and entertaining other men, something they don't understand is that i cry even louder and feel nothing for them, i want to see a million more cry. this is what he had to say as he wipes the tears rolling down his cheeks. I just looked on and wondered what to do next, men also cries.!
I have loved genuinely, broke guys, misers, and i have been hurt, then i asked myself why should i be hurt by someone who doesn't know the price of pads, someone who believes that my place is just in bed, when will i get stories to tell my peers, when they are rolling all over from one big restaurant to the other, from red carpet dinners to dinners, i will rather be hurt by someone who can give me a flight ticket to Mombasa than someone who can't even afford my transport to his place, someone who can get me a pair of some expensive shoes and dresses than someone who believes that every woman is a gold digger even when they don't know the color of cold, she said, looking very serious. times have changed, and as much as men think they are smarter, women are improving their games each and everyday, if you didn't buy her that cute dress you like seeing her in it just know that another man bought it, and it was not for free, she slept with the guy, and that is the bitter truth men should live with, she continued with all sorts of gestures...............

with this and many more, look for "secrets you never tell by Wilfred Namamba, and read some serious Revelations from both men and women and why they choose multiple partners

Thursday, 13 March 2014


This is a true story

In a bid to renovate his house, a man breaks a wooden wall. When tearing down the wall, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 3 years ago when the house was first built. What happened? The lizard has survived in such position for 3 years! In a dark wall partition for 3 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 3 years without moving a single step since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 3 years Imagine? It has been doing that untiringly for 3 long years, without giving up hope on its partner. Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't. Please never abandon your loved ones. Never Say You're Busy When They Really Need You. You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet. But You Might Be The Only World To Them. A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loved you against all odds.

Wednesday, 12 March 2014

Michelle’s harrowing tale of rape and the lessons she has learnt

He held both my arms and legs, so I could not move at all. I felt extreme pain — worse than birth pain — like someone was pounding a hammer into my private area, ripping it in every direction with each penetration.
I tried to kick and scream, but remembered that his body was holding me down.

It felt like it would never end. Then a flood of anger welled up; I was screaming for help. How come nobody was coming to my rescue?

Are you a Christian? I am, which is why I did not understand why God was just sitting there, watching.

You see, I knew my rapist or I thought I did. He was a completely different person on that day. I remember screaming my head off and crying: ‘Why? Why are you doing this?’ He just stared at me with an empty look and continued to abuse me.

I could not scream anymore, so I gave up. I realised that the horrific experience was only going to end when he decided to end it.

This is where I gave up on God and myself because I could not scream or fight anymore.

On that day, I lost my soul. I was left emotionally, mentally and spiritually empty. I did not have support from anyone.

To this day, one ‘friend’ does not even know why I called her. She never returned my messages even when I told her to call me back.

Ripple effect
When I tried to seek help, a pastor’s wife from a healing church in Justin, Texas in the US, where I was, told me that I brought this on myself.

Then I had to come to terms with the pregnancy. I also lost  my job and no one wanted to hire me because I was pregnant.

My gynaecologist asked me whether I had clearly stated to this man that I was not romantically interested in him. What did that even mean? Did it justify his actions? The doctor’s question made me so depressed, I became suicidal.

The only reason I was raped was because he was stronger than me. I have a taser that I bought after the first time I was raped by someone else, but could not reach for it from my purse because I was pinned down.

If you are raped
I have been raped twice and I can assure you that sometimes, nobody understands. Others, the kind you believed would run to your rescue or comfort you, may not even understand.

They might just shock you by blaming you for being a victim. Yes, the world is a sick place. From these two horrific experiences, this is my advice:

The top priority is to fight for your mind. More than ever, you need it to think clearly. It will try to disassociate from all kinds of emotions, but gather it together. If you do not, your disassociation from your mind may prevent you from doing the very things you said you would do “if it ever happened to me”.

When you can think clearly, immediately go to the Police and file charges, then go to hospital and get tested. Never take a shower first.

Do not allow anyone to question whether you could have led this guy on. If he has a  partner, they will believe you did and may even attack you. Do not let her get to you.

Remember not to feel guilty.

If you have never been raped, never say what you would do if you were raped. You cannot project what you will be feeling. Do not degrade another person who has been raped.

If the rapist was known to you and starts texting, calling or following you everywhere after the rape, document everything and tell the Police. Also, surround yourself with as many people as you can.

If, after the rape, you try to connect with friends, but they are too busy and are not returning your messages, leave them a message indicating why you urgently need to get a hold of them.

If you are raped twice and someone has the audacity to say, “the only common dominator is you”, or “you brought that on yourself”, do not let it get to you. You are a survivor, not a victim.

I recommend that you keep the baby, but it will be tough. I lost everything, except my car during the pregnancy, and had to live in shelters for the homeless when I could not afford rent anymore.

Before my rapist struck, I  was ready to get my master’s degree, but now I have no way of doing that.
My son makes some of the same expressions as the rapist and has his mouth, but it is very clear that he has a different soul from his father.

I have talked to children who were given up for adoption and they said they would rather be with their biological mother.

I have also talked to mothers who gave up their children because they did not have any money to raise a child (like myself).

But the experience of motherhood will make you want to fight for yourself, and go much further for yourself than you would when you were single.

Find strong support. There will be lots of advice from people when you share your experience. Your soul will recognise the genuine ones.

Do not let the bitterness change who you are, or let you stay in the past instead of moving forward. Find a good church that will help you eventually  forgive the attacker.

If you have to move house more than once and change your phone number so your attacker cannot find you, do it. I did.

Tuesday, 4 March 2014

Uganda to 'send troops to Somalia to protect UN'

A Ugandan soldier in Afgoye, Somalia, on 1 March 2014 About 22,000 troops are fighting al-Qaeda linked militants in Somalia
Uganda will send a 410-strong special force to guard UN installations in Somalia's capital, Mogadishu, a Ugandan army spokesman has said.
The protection squad will free up thousands of UN-backed troops to pursue militant Islamists in the city, Paddy Ankunda said.
The al-Qaeda-linked al-Shabab group has stepped up attacks in Mogadishu in recent weeks.
At least 12 people were killed in a suicide bombing last Thursday.
Last June, it carried out a major assault on the main UN base in Mogadishu, leaving at least 22 people dead.
'Mortar raids' A 22,000-strong African Union (AU) force, operating under a UN mandate, is battling al-Shabab in Somalia.
Col Ankunda said the protection squad would ensure the AU force was not "bogged down" escorting UN staff - many of whom are involved in aid work.
"Amisom [the African force] will be freed to follow al-Shabab wherever they are hiding," he added.
Al-Shabab lost control of most of Mogadishu in 2011 to AU and Somali government troops.
It has changed its strategy since then, launching guerrilla-style attacks - including suicide bombings and night-time mortar raids.
Last month, al-Shabab fighters stormed Villa Somalia, the seat of government in Mogadishu, killing at least 11 people.
The group has waged an eight-year insurgency to overthrow the weak UN-backed government and create an Islamic state in Somalia.

What To Do If Somebody Is Chasing You And Trying To Shoot You

 Justin Freeman, Former Police Officer.
 This post was originally published on Quora, in response to the question, "What should I do if someone is chasing me and trying to shoot me?" We republished the answer with permission from the author, former police officer Justin Freeman.  If you're on foot, you're obviously going to be running, but you need to do so smartly.      Your instinct will be to run directly away from the attacker, since a direct line is the shortest; however, you need to fight this tendency and make random cuts in your flight pattern. A moving target is fairly hard to hit, but if you're running in a straight line it's much easier, since you only have to correct one aspect of the aim if you miss.     Don't run in a simple zigzag pattern, or in any other predictable way. In order to hit a moving target, a shooter is going to have to "lead" you with the gun, swinging it ahead of where you are to where he or she thinks you'll be. If it's impossible to know this, you will be that much harder to hit.     Make use of concealment and cover as much as possible. Concealment is anything that obscures your body, but won't necessarily stop a bullet; cover is a barrier that is reasonably bullet resistant. If there are trees, shrubs, buildings, vehicles, or anything else around, work them into your flight pattern and get them between you and the shooter.     Try to head toward a place of safety. If there is any kind of police presence nearby, that's obviously your first choice. If not, any kind of governmental building, then any corporate or public center that might have security, then any accessible space you can access and secure behind you.     Failing all that, see if you can find cover just long enough to call 911 or your local equivalent. Stop just long enough to dial, then keep going. You're going to be long on panic and short on oxygen, but if your attacker has fired any shots there is a very short phrase you must get out clearly: "Active shooter at [your location]." If they're just armed and in pursuit of you, then "Man/Woman with a gun at [location]."     Addresses with numerics are best (5874 South Main), then intersections (Main and First), but any landmark you can get out will suffice. An active shooter call from an out of breath caller will get the cavalry rolling hot.     If you can find more cover, try to update dispatch — they're going to be ravenous for more information. Try to tell them your direction of travel, the type of gun involved (handgun, rifle, or shotgun at minimum, but more detail if you're certain of what you're talking about), and the suspect's description. If the suspect is wielding anything bigger than a pistol, please let dispatch know as soon as you can. Shotguns will change tactical response, and ballistic vests don't stop rifle rounds, so responding officers need to know about these before they get there.  Tied to the above, know your weapon. First, this is a shotgun; note the thumping report.  Read more: